Are you really looking after yourself?

May 16, 2024

You are fantastic, talented, and kind! And you know it is your duty to look after others and treat people generously and sensitively. That is your superpower!

But are you treating yourself with the same love, care, and attention that you give to others? For many of us, the answer to that question is often no. And that’s because sometimes what we want and need can feel like our lowest priority – because we’re bored, busy, stressed, or feeling tired and low energy.

You and your well-being are always worth investing in – especially when life feels difficult! Self-care is not selfish. Remember can look after other people much better when you are feeling good about yourself. As the saying goes: you cannot pour from an empty cup. So make sure you take the time you need to recharge.

It is important to realize that emotions happen in the body. This means our mood is affected by what our body experiences and how we treat it. Nourishing our bodies properly means thinking about all of our senses and making sure we attend to each of them properly. 

Take a moment to ask yourself the questions on this list that apply to you:

  1. Are you feeling clean and fresh (as much as possible in your circumstances)?

  2. Are you eating a balanced diet and staying hydrated (as much as possible in your circumstances)?

  3. Are you consuming too much caffeine – or any other kind of drug/stimulant? Adding too much to your system can have a bigger impact on your mood and energy levels than you might realize.

  4. Can you make your environment any more comfortable, or more cosy? Try reorganizing your stuff. Perhaps add your favorite color with a new cushion or poster? If you can, remove/hide/sell any objects that have negative memories attached to them.

  5. Do you have a favorite scent? It could be flowers on a tree, or the scent of breakfast, or a favorite perfume. Think about how you can stimulate your sense of smell.

  6. Is the music you listen to happy or sad? Does it inspire you to feel depressed or heartbroken? Or does it make you feel optimistic and energized? We absorb messages subconsciously, so try to listen to things that empower you. 
  7. Have you stretched recently? Are you exercising regularly? Going for a walk, dancing to your favorite song, or a quick at-home YouTube workout all count! Getting your body moving is crucial for your mental and physical well-being.

  8. Are you laughing much these days? Have you tried watching something light-hearted, or listening to a funny podcast? You deserve to laugh every day – even in the toughest times! Give yourself permission to have fun.

  9. Are you getting the mental stimulation you need? You could watch a video about a topic that interests you, start a hobby, learn a craft… This is especially important if you are looking for work not sure how to fill your time.

  10. Choose your friendships wisely. Spending time with people who are motivated and reflect qualities you admire is a form of self-care. You don’t have to give all your time to people who do not value you – it’s ok to say no to things you don’t want to do, and to people who do not respect your qualities and life goals.

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